Confrontation or Compromise?

The conflict, as a measure to achieve the goal - a very common method of all time. It goes on all the visibility of education among the ' strongest wins '. Bob picked in the garden at the Petit toy and plays. The teacher is still ' out yourself '. As a result, all the children remember -. if they will be stronger. , We get the best toys and. it will be correct.

Another lesson that we have in childhood, is that justice must have the fists. As in the old jokes - just good always wins, must win and immediately become a good. Yelled at the store for the seller - he'll normally handled. Swore in the barbershop - tonsured without aplomb. From childhood we teach ourselves that. we ourselves need a cry for something to start doing. A quiet request or attempt to motivate the prospect of destitution, or not enough for us.

As a mother calling her son home? .
For the first time:. Bob! .
Second time:. Bob! .
Third time:. Bob! . !.
Bob lazily and reluctantly trudges home.

And it is strange. Over the years, even the most disputed question of people -. is it possible to resolve the case was the world. ?.

Let's see what happens in either case. In the case of two persons occupy a confrontation Bortsova rack and start boxing words. Both receive a dose of adrenaline, easy bodrezh of the attack, and one - yet the desired result. The result produced in the struggle, it is doubly sweet.

For those who prefer a compromise, is inclined to stand back and look for a loophole. The second, usually - a lover argue, trying to hold a lover of compromises in the corner. As a result, the decision still is, moreover, are often not in favor of the attacker. And both sides are satisfied. Good trade-off is the fact that in a global sense, it gives you more - a win-win. But locally it inhibits. After all the adrenaline and remained inside.

As a result, all our provocations and conflict - the essence of the desire to throw out the accumulated. Not so long ago because of the small things, two of my friends had a falling out. Not because of what the essence, but the problem was not worth a damn. Both swelled, and the second went on the warpath, he began to complain to someone somewhere, pressed to the second. In my opinion not a man. But even with FIG. So what? . Now he is pleased and concerned about other issues, but with a clear head. We can say - srygnul, feel better. But something was osadochek.

Honestly, to me many times tried to quarrel. And every time I escaped from the quarrels and conflicts. Sometimes it is quite a high price. Each time the saw is by asking - why not send, why not come into conflict. Well, I can not. In the end, both sides looked at me as if I came down from Mars. Do not interfere, do not throw out the negative in those who are now considered to be close relatives to the disease state.

There are two myths. The first - to be healthy, we should fuck. Second - not to get sick, we should throw out all that junk, that on the inside of the adjacent.

This is a myth. But we are so accustomed to them and the common existence that implement them with surprising regularity and constancy. But the rejection of the myth causes misunderstanding and even rejection by others.

The most common complaint from konflitologov:.
- You're not a man. As if the guy makes a guy the ability to punch in the face.
- So you will not achieve anything in life. T. e. in life can only be achieved by stepping on someone 's throat?.
- From you weave the rope, and you do not see. Ahem, why weave. It all depends on the location from which to watch. ).
- You could do better!. Of course, if you take into their own hands and be my fate to go ahead and waving a sword.

Conflict sure:.
- The world revolves around anyone, not around them.
- Life is hard and short.
- In this life we must take all.

And we, the people need peace not so much:.
- The world - is that all around us, so do not shit in it.
- Life is long enough to make it simpler and easier, and then enjoy every moment of it.
- From the life we must take as much as you want. From the grave can not carry all.

I believe any multipolarity, absolutely any problem. And a military solution - not the only and certainly not the best way. Although not without. It is also a fact.

But I have a favorite formula:. Keep it simple and people will be pulled to you.

And, you know, it works.